Who is deciding my life?
The Choice (La Scelta). Detail: somebody is deciding my life, acrylic painting. Aurora Mazzoldi,
To solve this problem, I should detect who is deciding my life inside me.
The real problem is not how to make right decisions, but how we can put ourselves in the condition to decide. Many times, we know what the right decision is, but we don’t make it. Why?
Because often our emotions prevail over reasoning; they condition it and decide its logic instead. Try, for example, to make a choice when you are angry and then try to make the same choice in fear! In both cases, the logic of the choice will seem valid to you, but is the choice the same?
The influence of emotions
Choices influence our everyday life, and we should make the right ones, but emotions are stirring within us as if they were children in a classroom. How can teachers manage their classes if they do not learn to know their students?
We are the teachers of our inner classrooms. So, the purpose of inner research can be:
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To learn about the mess that’s in us.
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To realize that those who shout louder are not always right.
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We should aim to free us from:
- Unsatisfactory expectations and desires.
- Emotions that distract us from our realistic goals.
- Schemes that we feel we must follow, even if we do not approve of them.
Only after putting our internal selves in order will we be able to make free choices. Then we will not follow the emotion that screams louder or what we think we should do, but what corresponds to what we are and to what we want to achieve in our lives.
In this way, I can try to stop making Bad Choices and realize “the power of targeted choices”
Luis Pisoni